You can’t wear that to church! You are no stranger to this phrase if you grew up in an African American household; or that of stern parenting. You might have heard this phrase quite often. Or your church attire might have been picked out for you the night before and ironed. (Thank God for the dryer!) Either way I find myself often shocked or uneasy by what people choose to wear to worship on Sunday’s. I was taught that you wear the best you have to God’s House in obedience to what the Bible say’s about modesty or simply out of respect for a God who died for you to have eternal life.
Now, I’m often conflicted with several things:
1.What is dressed up to me, may not be dressed up to you.
2.How much skin is too much skin?
3.Are hats appropriate or do they deter one’s focus?
4.Is it okay to dress up for Sunday service but not Wednesday night?
5.Well should we always be dressed up since Praising God in one way or another should always be taking place?
Here’s a snippet from a girl who’s friends brought to her attention the attire she chose to wear from day to day & to church. But this definitely doesn’t exclude men from the topic…
“My friends aptly nicknamed me ‘Scantily.’ When choosing what to wear I thought only of what would flatter me, what would bring more attention my way, and what most resembled the clothes I saw on models or other stylish women. I wanted to be accepted and admired for what I wore. I enjoyed my attire, the undue attention I received, and the way it stimulated my feelings.”
-C.J. Mahaney (church member interview)
I actually found myself falling into this slump of jeans and t-shirt as acceptable attire when we moved to Nashville. After realizing that most churches are trying to appeal to a wider demographic here by coining themselves as contemporary and accepting of all. Well, yes we should be accepting of all because I’m not naive to the fact that everyone’s wardrobe is limited due to financial situations.
Now, there will be some of you who will think:
Is this really that important?
I mean, shouldn’t we just be thankful that people are in church? Well, who’s the authority on Church fashion?
This is why I left the church in the first place.
And I really feel as though it should be common sense, but I’d be a fool. But anyways to wrap this up. All I’m saying is those of us that can afford to. Are typically dressing nicer to go to work, date-night, concerts, dinner or a family event than we do to Praise the one true God. When you take that last glance in the mirror, ask yourself, is my appearance worthy to be in the presence of Jesus?
Just think about.
Here are some Bible verses & Blogs on the topic I found to assist:
Is Modesty an Issue in the Church today? by John Piper
Modesty: God, My Heart, and Clothes (pt. 1) by C.J. Mahaney
Modesty to Kids by Julie Sanders
1 Timothy 2:3–10
1 Timothy 2:9
1 John 2:15